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Six Months Preparation
Marriage is an
important Sacrament. A sufficient period is given to its preparation. Like
most Catholic dioceses, the Diocese of Reno requires couples to contact St.
Francis of Assisi at least six months before the marriage. The following is
part of that preparation.
DIOCESAN RULES
Common Policy for
pastoral Marriage Preparation, Diocese of Reno
"Couples are
encouraged to contact their Priest and begin formal marriage preparation as
soon as they make a decision to marry. As a minimum requirement couples must
contact the Priest and begin their preparation at least six months before
the proposed wedding date. This is not intended as a "Waiting Period" but
rather one of preparation. Therefore the process
of such
preparation should begin at the first meeting with the Priest or the St.
Francis of Assisi Marriage Preparation Team. Concern with the immediate
preparation for the wedding
itself can make it difficult for the couple to benefit fully from the
preparation itself. Thus it is
highly desirable for the couple to complete all the steps of preparation
at least two months before the
wedding date".
The following is
part of the preparation.
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PMI
- During the preparation period, the Marriage Preparation Team helping the
couple will provide what is called the Pre-Marital Inventory and/or PMI.
This
program aids the couple examining mutual feelings and expectations of
marriage. Through this program, the couple develops a mature and solid
relationship necessary for marriage.
It is to be noted that the Priest or Marriage Preparation Team helping the
couple may determine there is a question regarding the couple's readiness
for marriage. He/they may refer the couple to a professional for
evaluation and assessment.
Special
considerations:
Persons under the
age of 19 who wish to marry will be asked to receive individual evaluative
counseling before the marriage can be arranged.
·
Engaged
Encounter
- Besides the PMI Program, the couple attends the following preparation.
A
weekend (Friday evening to Sunday afternoon) to be shared by the couple with
others preparing for marriage. This weekend experience assists in developing
communication skills by giving each person the opportunity for honest,
intensive sharing about their future lives together. The schedule for the
Engaged Encounter, held in the Student Center at Bishop Manogue High School
in Reno, NV, may be obtained by calling (775) 324-5683. Your Priest or
Marriage Preparation Team may also have a sign-up brochure. There is a fee
of for attending the ECE weekend in Reno. If you live in the San Francisco
Bay area the contact information may be found at
http://www.sfcee.org/.
Attendance at
Engaged Encounter is mandatory for all couples receiving their instruction
within the Diocese of Reno. Our Diocese recognizes the requirements of other
Dioceses throughout the United States.
·
The
Five Love Languages
by Gary Chapman.
You will
be given this book at your first meeting with the Marriage Preparation Team.
You are asked to read it so that you can discuss this book at your second
meeting.
Planning the Ceremony
Reserving Saint
Francis Church
Please contact Beth
and Dieter Krewedl to arrange your wedding date at (530) 587-1172 or email:
krewedl@gmail.com.
The fee for the use of the church is:
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$1,500.00
for St. Francis of Assisi Parishioners.
-
Catholic
Non-Parishioners:
Fiscal Year 2009-2010 (July 1st 2009 to June 30th, 2010) - Wedding Fee
$2,500
Fiscal Year 2010-2011 (July 1st 2010 to June 30th, 2011) - Wedding Fee
$3,000
A deposit of $500.00 is required within fourteen (14) days of booking your
wedding to secure your chosen date. Mail all checks to St. Francis of Assisi
Catholic Church in Incline Village, P. O. Box 4226, Incline Village, NV
89450
Dates & Times
Wedding ceremonies
may be scheduled Saturdays at 11:00 A.M., 2:00 P.M. Due to the variety of
parish activities, scheduling at other times on Saturdays is not possible.
Other days and times may be available if the couple provides their own
clergy.
Church Wedding
Coordinator
Our Parish Wedding
Coordinator, Suzanne Ewasko, is part of our team and must be contacted by
you to arrange a meeting one-month prior to your wedding. At that meeting
the logistics of the ceremony will be decided... The church Wedding
Coordinator will attend your rehearsal and will be present at the wedding.
If you have hired your own Wedding Coordinator, our Parish Wedding
Coordinator will cooperate with your personal coordinator; however, our
Parish Wedding Coordinator is fully responsible for the rehearsal, to assure
that the sacred ceremony is in compliance with the Diocese/Parish customs
and traditions. Suzanne has a stipend of $100, which is paid directly to her
on the day of the rehearsal. You may contact Suzanne at 831-0490
or
suzannee@saintfrancisatincline.org.
Rehearsals
Rehearsals may be
held on weekdays. Dates and times are arranged with the Priest. Saint
Francis Church is reserved for a period of one hour for your rehearsal.
Punctuality is imperative. Rehearsals will not be extended beyond
the
scheduled time; adherence to the scheduled time is imperative due to other
events. Please arrive in a respectful manner as this is preparation for a
sacred event.
Special Notice
Regarding Promptness
You have the use of
the church for ninety (90) minutes. This includes photographs. In order for
the Wedding liturgy to begin promptly, the couple should arrive in plenty of
time before the ceremony: thirty minutes for the groom and ushers, and
thirty minutes for the bride and attendants. The weddings at St. Francis of
Assisi must remain within certain time limits. Thus, couples should realize
that a late start of the liturgy might require shortening or even
elimination of certain parts of the ceremony or photographs.
The 11:00 A.M.
Wedding Party and photographers must vacate the church by 12:30 P.M. at the
latest. The 2:00 P.M. Wedding Party and photographers must vacate the church
by 3:30 P.M., at the latest. No pictures will be allowed after 3:30 P.M.
Planning Your Wedding Liturgy
The liturgy of
marriage is a moment of joy and celebration. In our Catholic tradition, we
hold that the couples themselves minister this sacrament or the vows to one
another. While it is necessary that an official witness of the Church
preside over the celebration (normally, a Priest), the active involvement
of the couple in every aspect of planning the celebration is essential.
The couple should
always keep in mind that the ceremony is first and foremost a moment of
prayer for all who are present. All aspects of the celebration should
reflect the noble simplicity befitting Christian worship.
Planning
To aid in this
planning, we use the booklet, Together for Life by Joseph M. Champlin
(Ave Maria Press, Notre Dame, Indiana), along with a liturgy-planning sheet.
On your final meeting with the Priest, you will discuss the specific
readings from Scripture and liturgical options that you have chosen. He will
help clarify any further questions you may have regarding the ceremony at
that time.
Mass or Ceremony?
Should you
celebrate your marriage in the context of a Mass or non-Eucharistic
ceremony?
When a wedding is
celebrated at Mass, the Rite of Marriage takes place after the Liturgy of
the Word and the homily. The Liturgy of the Eucharist then follows. When a
wedding is celebrated outside Mass, it is celebrated within the context of a
Liturgy of the Word, in which the Rite of Marriage takes place after the
homily. This Rite concludes with prayers and blessings.
In choosing which
format to use you will want to consider the following points:
·
What is our
relationship to the Sunday Eucharist? Are we faithful to the Church’s Sunday
prayer? Have we been away from the community’s prayer? Have we committed
ourselves to returning?
In
light of your answers to the above questions, is Mass or a Liturgy of the
Word the better context for the celebration of our marriage?
If one
of you is from another faith tradition and so will be unable to share Holy
Communion if the wedding is celebrated during Mass, you may want to consider
what this means. Do you want to include something in this celebration in
which only one of you will be able to take part?
Who
will your guests be? Is the celebration of the Eucharist the best way to
help them be with you and pray with you at your wedding?
Music
Welcome to the
process of planning music for the celebration of your marriage. Please keep
in mind that all music chosen needs to be appropriate for a sacred liturgy.
Some love songs, while beautiful to listen to, may be more appropriate at
the reception than at the wedding itself. A general guideline is that any
sung music (by cantor, soloist, or choir) should be sacred in nature. A list
of musicians available at St. Francis of Assisi is provided. Our musicians
and cantors charge a separate fee. You are free to use whomever you wish,
however, a $50 surcharge will be charged for any musician/group who is not
directly associated with our parish.
Music of a
liturgical or sacred nature is encouraged.
Flowers
As sacred art
reflects the joy of the Paschal Mystery celebrated in all Catholic
liturgies, flowers add an important element of festivity to a wedding. Given
the elaborate interior design of the Church, decorations should reflect
simplicity and should not interfere with the liturgy.
Flowers are never placed on the altar itself but may be placed on the steps
or floor directly in front of the altar. Nothing may be placed on the
pews themselves. The use of artificial petals may be tossed by a flower girl
but not real petals as these may stain the stone pavers.
The Church
environment is decorated according to our liturgical calendar. There are
certain colors used during the different seasons which will be prominent and
which may influence your decisions as to arrangements.
None of the Church
decorations or furniture may be moved for a wedding. Please be respectful
while working in the sanctuary area.
It is the
responsibility of the florist/wedding party to see that any items placed in
the aisles and pews are removed after the ceremony and that the Church is
left tidy and orderly.
Bridal Runners
Due to insurance
liability risk, bridal runners are not allowed.
Rice, etc.
Birdseed, confetti,
rose-petals, bubbles, etc. create a safety hazard. There is a clause in our
insurance policy prohibiting such items. We ask you to inform your guests
that none of these be thrown in, around or in front of the church.
Parking
There is parking
provided for the wedding adjacent to the Church with an overflow parking lot
located on Kelly Dr. Please note that the driveway on the south side of the
Church is one way.
Bride's Room
Space is available
in the Church Hall downstairs. The Wedding Coordinator will assist you in
this matter.
Photos/Videos
Great care must be
taken to insure that nothing interferes with this sacred event. Please
review with the photographer(s)/videographer(s) the enclosed information
that offers guidelines for your wedding memories.
Check List
1.
Give the
marriage preparation materials to the Marriage Preparation Team or
Priest/Deacon who will officiate at your wedding. After your first meeting
with him, you will know what direction your preparations will take.
2.
Spend time
together reading the many prayers and scripture readings from which you will
make choices for your liturgy. Two months before the date of your ceremony,
get together with the C Coordinator/Priest to make the final selections.
3.
The Church
Wedding Coordinator will meet with both of you one month prior to your
wedding. The coordinator will be present at the rehearsal as well as at the
Wedding unless you are using outside clergy.
4.
A
non-refundable deposit of $500 must be made within two weeks of reserving
the date for your wedding ceremony. The balance is due a minimum of one
month prior to your wedding date.
5.
Talk with
the photographer/videographer and give him/her a copy of the church
guidelines.
6.
Get your
Nevada Wedding License.
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