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Sacrament
of Marriage
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Six Months Preparation
Marriage is an important Sacrament. A sufficient period is given to its
preparation. Like most Catholic dioceses, the Diocese of Reno require couples to
contact St. Francis of Assisi at least six months before the marriage. The
following is part of that preparation.
DIOCESAN RULES
Common Policy for pastoral Marriage Preparation, Diocese of Reno
"Couples are encouraged to contact their Priest and begin formal marriage
preparation as soon as they make a decision to marry. As a minimum requirement
couples must contact the Priest and begin their preparation at least six months
before the proposed wedding date. This is not intended as a "Waiting Period" but
rather one of preparation. Therefore the process
of such preparation
should begin at the first meeting with the Priest or the St. Francis of Assisi
Marriage Preparation Team. Concern with the immediate
preparation for the wedding itself can
make it difficult for the couple to benefit fully from the
preparation itself. Thus it is
highly desirable for the couple to complete all the steps of preparation
at least two months before the
wedding date".
The following is part of the preparation.
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PMI
- During the preparation period, the Marriage Preparation Team helping the
couple will provide what is called the Pre-Marital Inventory and/or PMI.
This program
aids the couple examining mutual feelings and expectations of marriage.
Through this program, the couple develops a mature and solid relationship
necessary for marriage. It is to be noted that the Priest or Marriage
Preparation Team helping the couple may determine there is a question
regarding the couple's readiness for marriage. He/they may refer the couple to
a professional for evaluation and assessment.
Special considerations:
Persons under the age of 19 who wish to marry will be asked to receive
individual evaluative counseling before the marriage can be arranged.
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Engaged Encounter
- Besides the PMI Program, the couple attends the following preparation.
A weekend
(Friday evening to Sunday afternoon) to be shared by the couple with others
preparing for marriage. This weekend experience assists in developing
communication skills by giving each person the opportunity for honest,
intensive sharing about their future lives together. The schedule for the
Engaged Encounter, held in the Student Center at Bishop Manogue High School in
Reno, NV, may be obtained by calling (775) 324-5683. Your Priest or Marriage
Preparation Team may also have a sign-up brochure. There is a fee of $185 for
attending the ECE weekend in Reno. If you live in the San Francisco Bay area
the contact information may be found at
http://www.sfcee.org/.
Attendance at Engaged
Encounter is mandatory for all couples.
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The Five Love
Languages
by Gary Chapman.
You will be given
this book at your first meeting with the Marriage Preparation Team. You are
asked to read it so that you can discuss this book at your second meeting.
Planning
the Ceremony
Reserving Saint
Francis Church
Please contact Beth and Dieter Krewedl to arrange your wedding date at (530)
587-1172 or email:
krewedl@gmail.com.
The fee for the use of the church is $1,500.00. A deposit of $500.00 is required
within fourteen (14) days of booking your wedding to secure your chosen date.
Mail all checks to St. Francis of Assisi Catholic Church in Incline Village.
Dates & Times
Wedding ceremonies may be scheduled Saturdays at 11:00 A.M., 2:00 P.M. Due to
the variety of parish activities, scheduling at other times on Saturdays is not
possible. Other days and times may be available if the couple provides their own
clergy.
Church Wedding
Coordinator
Our Parish Wedding Coordinator Suzanne Ewasko, is part of our team and must be
contacted by you to arrange a meeting one-month prior to your wedding. At that
meeting the logistics of the ceremony will be decided... The church Wedding
Coordinator will attend your rehearsal and will be present at the wedding. If
you have hired your own Wedding Coordinator, our Parish Wedding Coordinator will
cooperate with your personal coordinator; however, our Parish Wedding
Coordinator is fully responsible for the rehearsal, to assure that the sacred
ceremony is in compliance with the Diocese/Parish customs and traditions.
Suzanne has a stipend of $100, which is paid directly to her on the day of the
rehearsal. You may contact Suzanne at ewasko@sbcglobal.net.
Rehearsals
Rehearsals may be held on weekdays. Dates and times are arranged with the
Priest. Saint Francis Church is reserved for a period of one hour for your
rehearsal. Punctuality is imperative. Rehearsals will not be extended beyond
the
scheduled time; adherence to the scheduled time is imperative due to other
events.
Special Notice
Regarding Promptness
You have the use of the church for ninety (90) minutes. This includes
photographs. In order for the Wedding liturgy to begin promptly, the
couple should arrive in plenty of time before the ceremony: thirty minutes for
the groom and ushers, and thirty minutes for the bride and attendants. The
weddings at St. Francis of Assisi must remain within certain time limits.
Thus, couples should realize that a late start of the liturgy might require
shortening or even elimination of certain parts of the ceremony or photographs.
The 2:00 P.M.
Wedding Party and photographers must vacate the church by 3:30 P.M., at the
latest. No pictures will be allowed after 3:30 P.M.
Planning Your Wedding Liturgy
The liturgy of marriage is a moment of joy and celebration. In our Catholic
tradition, we hold that the couples themselves minister this sacrament or the
vows to one another. While it is necessary that an official witness of the
Church preside over the celebration (normally, a Priest), the active
involvement of the couple in every aspect of planning the celebration is
essential.
The couple should always keep in mind that the ceremony is first and foremost a
moment of prayer for all who are present. All aspects of the celebration should
reflect the noble simplicity befitting Christian worship.
Planning
To aid in this planning, we use the booklet, Together for Life by Joseph
M. Champlin (Ave Maria Press, Notre Dame, Indiana), along with a
liturgy-planning sheet. On your final meeting with the Priest, you will discuss
the specific readings from Scripture and liturgical options that you have
chosen. He will help clarify any further questions you may have regarding the
ceremony at that time.
Mass or Ceremony?
Should you celebrate your marriage in the context of a Mass or non-Eucharistic
ceremony?
When a wedding is celebrated at Mass, the Rite of Marriage takes place after the
Liturgy of the Word and the homily. The Liturgy of the Eucharist then follows.
When a wedding is celebrated outside Mass, it is celebrated within the context
of a Liturgy of the Word, in which the Rite of Marriage takes place after the
homily. This Rite concludes with prayers and blessings.
In choosing which format to use you will want to consider the following points:
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What is our
relationship to the Sunday Eucharist? Are we faithful to the Church’s Sunday
prayer? Have we been away from the community’s prayer? Have we committed
ourselves to returning?
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In light of your
answers to the above questions, is Mass or a Liturgy of the Word the better
context for the celebration of our marriage?
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If one of you is from
another faith tradition and so will be unable to share Holy Communion if the
wedding is celebrated during Mass, you may want to consider what this means.
Do you want to include something in this celebration in which only one of you
will be able to take part?
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Who will your guests
be? Is the celebration of the Eucharist the best way to help them be with you
and pray with you at your wedding?
Music
Welcome to the process of planning music for the celebration of your marriage.
Please keep in mind that all music chosen needs to be appropriate for a sacred
liturgy. Some love songs, while beautiful to listen to, may be more appropriate
at the reception than at the wedding
itself. A general guideline is that any sung music (by cantor, soloist, or
choir) should be sacred in nature. A list of
musicians available at St. Francis of Assisi is provided.
Our musicians and cantors charge a separate fee. You are
free to use whomever you wish, however, a $50 surcharge will be charged for any
musician/group who is not directly associated with our parish.
Music of a liturgical or sacred nature is encouraged. We
look forward to working with you to create a meaningful and lovely wedding for
you.
Flowers
As sacred art reflects the joy of the Paschal Mystery celebrated in all Catholic
liturgies, flowers add an important element of festivity to a wedding. Given the
elaborate interior design of the Church, decorations should reflect simplicity
and should not interfere with the liturgy. Flowers are never placed on the
altar itself.
Flowers are never placed on the altar
itself but may be placed on the steps or floor directly in front of the altar.
Nothing may be placed on the pews themselves. The use of artificial petals may
be tossed by a flower girl but not real petals as these may stain the stone
pavers.
The Church environment is decorated according to our liturgical calendar. There
are certain colors used during the different seasons which will be prominent and
which may influence your decisions as to arrangements.
None of the Church decorations or furniture may be moved for a wedding. Please
be respectful while working in the sanctuary area.
It is the
responsibility of the florist/wedding party to see that any items placed in the
aisles are removed after the ceremony and that the Church is left tidy and
orderly.
Bridal Runners
Due to insurance liability risk, bridal runners are not allowed.
Rice, etc.
Birdseed, confetti, rose-petals, bubbles, etc. create a safety hazard. There is
a clause in our insurance policy prohibiting such items. We ask you to inform
your guests that none of these be thrown in, around or in front of the church.
Parking
There is parking provided for the wedding adjacent to the Church with an
overflow parking lot located on Kelly Dr. Please note that the driveway on the
south side of the Church is one way.
Bride's Room
Space is available in the Church Hall downstairs. The Wedding Coordinator will
assist you in this matter.
Photos/Videos
Great care must be taken to insure that nothing interferes with this sacred
event. Please review with the photographer(s)/videographer(s) the enclosed
information that offers guidelines for your wedding memories.
Check List
| 1. |
Give the
marriage preparation materials to the Marriage Preparation Team or Priest/deacon
who will officiate at your wedding. After your first meeting with him, you will
know what direction your preparations will take. |
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Spend time together reading the many prayers and scripture readings from
which you will make choices for your liturgy. Two months before the date of
your ceremony, get together with the Marriage Preparation Team/Priest to
make the final selections. |
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The Church
Wedding Coordinator will meet with both of you one month prior to your wedding.
The coordinator will be present at the rehearsal as well as at the Wedding. |
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A
non-refundable deposit of $500 must be made within two weeks of reserving
the date for your wedding ceremony. The balance of $1000, and any additional
fees, is due one month prior to your wedding date. Also at that time the
balance of the church fee will be paid, including any additional charges. |
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Talk with the
photographer/videographer and give him/her a copy of the church guidelines. |
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| 6. |
Get your Nevada
Wedding License. |
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